The Games People Play
No we are not talking about checkers, football or cards.
These are the psychological games people play. The famous Dr.
Eric Berne defined a psychological game like this " a
recurring set of transactions often repetitive, superficially rational, with a
concealed motivation; or, more colloquially, as a series of transactions with a
snare, or gimmick. "
The criteria, that defines transactions as games is as
A continuing series of complementary transactions, that are
credible on the social level. Basically it looks like honest, good old social
interaction between people.
An ulterior transaction, which is the basic message of the
game. There is a concealed message. This is not straightforward, honest
There is a predictable payoff and this ends the game. This
is the purpose of playing the game.
These psychological games are similar to games like chess, or
monopoly. The players need to know the game in order to play. These
psychological games have a beginning, rules, and an ending or payoff, but have
an ulterior, concealed purpose. These are usually not played for fun. Most are not fun.
People unconsciously search out others with whom they can play the game.
Those involved in playing the game are not fully aware of what
is going on. It is something that the participants are not fully conscious of.
Games form the most important aspect of human social life all around the world.
You cannot understand human behavior if you don't take into account the games
people play. Wherever people interact you are bound to find games. Nations play
Many fairy tales are based on the games people have played from
time immemorial. Some examples are Cinderella, Beauty and the Beast, The
Emperor's New Clothes, Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs, Peter
Pan, Rapunzel, The Spider and the Fly and so on.
Games are essentially dishonest. Is it possible to live a life
where one did not play any games ? Perhaps, but it is extremely unlikely and
difficult. It may be barely possible. Most people can't live without their
It is important to also realize that people don't play games
all the time. People also structure their time around things like rituals
that oil the wheels of social interchange. Pastimes and activities also serve to
structure our time. Things like normal conversation about things like the
weather, work, hobbies, etc. There is also the work we do, which is quite often
straightforward without games involved. People getting together doing some
specific work and tasks. There are also other ways people structure their time,
where games are not involved. People also get involved in intimacy, which can be
Here is a list of 70 games that people play, which are
probably the most common played. There are way,
way, way more than 70 in the world. But isn't listing 70 enough for us
here ? They are placed in alphabetical order.
1. Ain't it Awful ? - the payoff
is the suffering.
There are those who through no fault of their own end up
suffering - for these people suffering is unwanted. These people are not
playing games, but suffer nevertheless.
Then there are people who unconsciously seek out suffering
in some way - as if it were a gift of the Gods. Unconsciously they are grateful
for the person or situation that has caused them misfortune.
collectively for example continue to support an incompetent and corrupt
government - and then when invariably things go wrong (due to the
fact they keep voting for or supporting crooks, liars and the brain
dead) this gives them the chance to get together, and complain and
growl and play this Ain't it Awful game. But no conscious effort is made
to support alternatives, and support other leaders, who won't cheat and
abuse them !
2. Alcoholic - the payoff apparently has to do with
the subsequent hangover, be it physical or psychological torment.
the game involves a process of social, financial or physical deterioration.
In the game there is the alcoholic themselves, but a supporting cast of
players include the persecutor (maybe a spouse or another relative), rescuer
(someone who wants to rescue the alcoholic like a family Doctor maybe, but
who can be just playing games too and not be a real rescuer), patsy (maybe a
drinking buddy or buddies or someone else who helps fund the addiction or
lend social support and legitimacy to the game) and then there is the
connection - the ones where the alcoholic goes to get their supply of booze
(a bartender, or bar owner or the liquor store clerk) these persons are
usually more professional and hopefully know when to cut the alcoholic off
from the supply.
Drug addicts play a similar like game to "
alcoholic" but this is a more serious, dangerous and sinister type
game, which can have more dramatic results and move faster. That is the degradation
of the person is usually faster and there can be a more damaging
If you refuse to play any of the roles in the alcoholics game
- then the alcoholic or addict will just unconsciously search out someone
else to play the supporting roles in the game.
3. Asking for advice, but unconsciously not being prepared to
take any of it.
4. Bear trapper - the payoff appears to be the
act of rejection and sense of power the bear trapper feels over those they
have successfully baited.
Seducing people into false
intimacy, or false hopes, but then not delivering what appeared to have been
promised, like an intimate sexual relationship for example. The empty
promises are the bait, and if you get sucked in - down comes the trap, and
they have you under their control.
5. Blaming the government for almost everything.
6. Blemish - those who play this game are involved in
prying and finding fault in others, but this has a picky, petty, nit picking
quality to it. If someone is playing this game they will always find
something to fault you for - no matter how well you do. Nit pickers.
7. Busman's holiday A good game generally, if
there is such a thing.
Work exchanges in foreign countries, charitable work in poorer countries,
using your expertise in a trade or craft to help out the less fortunate -
especially in poorer countries.
Apparently this becomes a game when there is an ulterior
motive associated with the service or work offered. For example - someone
offering to do work for the poor in Thailand, but their real intent is to
exploit youths in Thailand sexually. The work is just a means to their
8. Buyer and seller game.
9. Catch me if you can.
10. Cavalier They say this is a fairly harmless or even good game for the most
part (if there is such a thing as a harmless and good game). However it
depends if you
can find a woman or women sophisticated enough to play it with you, but beware of the
Bear Trapper and the Rapo player.
The game can be fun for those involved (but maybe not all
spectators), if people know
when to stop, and if the woman doesn't get weird ideas and think sex is
the intent. The game is to mimic certain courtship procedures, like complimenting
the woman on her good qualities, good looks, or sexy legs. But it doesn't
lead to any intimate relationship. It involves artistry, and garnering appreciation from
This writer worked with an older man in a mainly female
department who was playing this game or one very similar, but he would
sometimes go a little too far (bordering on sexual molestation), and slyly
feel up some of the woman's bums. They did not seem to mind much. I and
one of my fellow male workers got fed up with him one day, and demanded he
deliver the goods - instead of just talking all the time. "
Come on lets see some performance " we challenged him.
Naturally he was all talk, and no action.
11. Complaining to parents about sibling problems. Unconscious
aim is to get the parent to yell at, or in some way punish the other kid.
12. Cops and robbers (doing crimes, but leaving yourself wide
open to being caught). These are your small time criminals - the losers -
who unconsciously leave themselves open to being caught, and then doing time
in the crowbar hotel. They too often leave all kinds of evidence, or resort
to acts of violence or vandalism when doing the crime.
Real professional criminals will usually make serious efforts to avoid
being caught. Big time drug traffickers are often in this category. This is
why many of the really big time gangsters rarely get caught - since they are
professional criminals, and not Cops and Robbers game players.
13. Corner - victims of the Corner game
player are manipulated into feeling cornered, and
therefore " damned if they do and damned if they don't.
A boss at work may be ambiguous about their expectations
from workers, and then end up criticizing the employees no matter what
14. Courtship games
15. Debtor People, or
nations go massively into debt. Then they complain regularly about all the
debts, and how the debts prevent them from doing such and such. But there is no
conscious effort to get rid of the debts, or keep them to a minimum. The
game is to keep going into debt, so people can pay the game of debtor.
16. Frigid man Apparently this game is less
common but similar to Frigid Women with some variation in details.
17. Frigid woman The payoff is the game of
Uproar - that is there is a blow-up and bursts of anger between the man
and the woman due to the frigidity issue, and then sexual intimacy is out
of the question.
Somehow the woman has developed bad attitudes towards men
and sex. This may be due to growing up in an abusive family environment,
where there was perhaps sexual abuse involved, or perhaps having been
sexually molested when young, or perhaps not having a positive Father
figure in ones formative years.
Therefore the woman take the position that sex is dirty,
and men are no good, or men are beasts. It is therefore difficult for the
woman's mate to establish a normal, positive sexual relationship with
Also, if the man is playing games too, he may have
unconsciously chosen such a frigid woman, because he may be just as afraid
of sexual intimacy as his wife.
18. Game of colonization - many nations say they are against it,
but a lot of them practice it.
19. Game of Monk, Priest, or Nun. Game of religious recluse.
Where people are just playing at this. They do not really take it seriously.
20. Game of saint as far as sex is concerned.
21. Giving their son, daughter, grand-son, or grand-daughter a
start. This is a game when things turn out bad and the family begins
fighting, or there is a falling out. When done properly this is not a game.
22. Game where governments of nations say they are out to help
the common man, but really are there to help an elite.
23. Going to church - but not being really serious about it.
24. Great powers talk about helping their friends when another
great power is oppressing them. However, when the time comes to help no help
is given. It was just a lot of empty promises.
25. Happy to help (the person is doing penance for something,
but generally speaking people won't complain much , if someone wants to help
26. Harried The person takes on too many projects,
or tasks, and won't say no - they eventually break down and cannot keep up. The collapse results in them
getting even less done, and no doubt disappointing those who were depending
27. Homely sage (a good game - if there is such a thing).
28. I don't want anything to do with politics. But they play
politics in their own lives.
29. If you don't do it someone else will - like cheating, or
taking advantage of someone vulnerable.
30. If it weren't for you. Unconsciously attaching oneself
to someone who is very controlling, or is very restrictive and then blaming
that person or organization for blocking you in doing what you really want
to do. Then using the situation as an excuse to complain about the
restrictive environment, but doing nothing to extricate themselves from such
31. I'm a better man than you.
32. I'm going to get you if you don't watch out.
33. I'm only trying to help you. A game
played primarily by the helping professions, like Social Workers or
Psychologists. And also by regular people who do perhaps community service
work, even if it is as a volunteer.
The patient or client may complain that the advice given is
not helping them. The complaining may escalate and end up with the client
berating the helping professional, and saying their advice is wrong and
hurting them and their family.
The payoff is the bewilderment the helping professional
feels at the ingratitude of the client - because after all they are
" only trying to help them. "
There are legitimate helpers and then there are those who
are just playing games.
34. I'm so good and pure - they are really far from it.
35. Indigence - Unconsciously a person, or even a
whole country or society just lets things slide, and gradually they sink
into a state of indigence. Basic needs are ignored, and the person, or
country must rely upon others for handouts.
welfare dependency is a case in point - where the persons, or family is not
consciously making a serious effort to regain economic independence. The
government and government workers may unconsciously play a big role in the game of
Indigence (the welfare trap), when they just go along with it, and through
their actions contribute to it, and perpetuate it.
For sure at times for whatever reason people can run into hard times, and genuinely need help. In that case this
is not a game - it is just a genuine need, which can be addressed through accessing
various Social Programs, like Welfare. Such persons will make a conscious
effort to regain their independence, but are often forced to stay on welfare
for a time, especially if they have small children.
Collectively the nation of
Zimbabwe may be a good example of this game of Indigence, and perhaps
another would be Haiti.
36. Keep your distance.
37. Let's pull a fast one on Joey.
38. Let's pull a trick on the salesman.
39. Lets you and her fight.
40. Look how hard I've tried.
41. Lunch bag - is a game that has some good and bad
qualities to it. The game reinforces qualities like thrift or hard work,
which would generally be regarded as virtues. The bad side to it is that
people can use the game to try and manipulate and control others. Like with
the husband who uses up old paper bags and left over scraps of food from
home to take to work for lunch to just unconsciously try and control the
wife and her spending habits.
Being " cheap " may be
necessary at certain times in our lives when times are tough, but can be
overdone. Most communities have their quota of persons who are so cheap they
squeak - and sometimes such persons are quite well off. Like the
comical skit on the old Jack Benny program years ago. Benny is
confronted by a robber who threatens him with a gun and demands,
" Your money or your life! " Jack Benny does not answer the
away and the thief gets mad and says, " I said... your money or your
life!" There is a long silence from Jack and the
thief shouts out, " Why don't you answer me. I said your money or your
life! " Benny finally answers, " I'm thinking, I'm
42. Minding their own business - a game when this is used as an
excuse not to get involved, or not to help the needy.
43. Nations getting into wars, but they are not really
interested in winning the war. Some examples are the strife between
the Palestinians and Israel in the Holy Land. This is ongoing. Neither side
appears interested in resolving the conflict, or gaining an outright
military victory. The Vietnam War waged by the United States, where they
were not prepared to do what was needed to win.
44. Now I've got you - you S.O.B. The person,
or country has someone defeated, or in a very vulnerable position. Instead
of being a gracious winner or being nonjudgmental, and letting the other one
save face - they want to rub the other person's or country's nose in
it. The unconscious aim is to humiliate the other.
45. Peace, peace when there is no peace - an example is the
continual call for peace by nations all around the world, while they are
busily involved in wars, or are supplying arms to those in wars.
46. Persecution game This is a game when
people unconsciously seek out someone to persecute them, so they can then claim
how they are persecuted. Legitimate victims of persecution do not go
out of their way to seek persecutors, by provoking others.
47. Poor me and Kick me (people unconsciously setting themselves
up for failure). There are victims, and then there are victims. This is a
game when the person, or country unconsciously sets themselves up to lose,
or to be abused, or to be taken advantage of. There are genuine victims of injustices,
of corruption and of oppression. Such persons or countries genuinely do not
want to be victimized, and they resist, but are still taken advantage of or
49. Rapo or Kiss off. Leading on another
person seductively, but giving them the Kiss Off, if they commit
themselves and respond positively. Then the woman that led the man on may
say - " See I knew it all along - All men are Beasts.
There apparently are varying degrees of the game Rapo,
like first, second or third degree burns. The really vicious game of Rapo
can end up in violence or the Courtroom, like if for example a woman leads
a man on and even lets him have sex with her, and then she accuses him of
rape, or sexual assault.
50. Rich nations offering to help poorer lands, but they just
want to cheat them (They seem to want to help, but the unconscious aim
is to exploit and cheat. The poor nations are part of the game, when they
unconsciously set themselves up to be taken advantage of).
51. Rescue game - the person, group, or perhaps nation is only
playing at this. They are not really serious about really rescuing the
person, group or country.
52. Saving the world - saving sinners.
53. Schlemiel Making messes and then apologizing,
being forgiven, but then not correcting the behavior, but just making more
54. See how hard I work.
55. See what you made me do.
56. Stupid Unconsciously setting themselves up
for failure by acting stupid, or doing things incorrectly. The aim of the
game being to get others to confirm to the person their underlying psychological
position - that they are in some way unworthy or stupid in their own eyes.
The individual isn't making honest mistakes, and are not trying to honestly
deal with them - they are unconsciously setting themselves up for criticism,
abuse and failure. Such persons will unconsciously seek out someone, who can
play the game with them, and who will call them stupid, or ridicule
57. The crazy game - pretending to be crazy.
58. They'll be glad they knew me (a good game).
59. They had it coming for trusting me.
60. Trying to make a silk purse out of a sow's ear.
62. Wooden leg - this is a game when someone has a
disability, like a wooden leg, or like maybe some psychological disorder
etc, and they just use the disability as an excuse to not make an effort, or
to not succeed at things.
63. What would you do without me ?
64. What's the use - nothing will turn out good anyways.
a game when people just use this as an excuse not to get involved, or not to
do the right thing.
65. Where people talk about hating the devil and his ways, but
they follow Satan and his ways.
66. Why am I always cheated ? People playing this game
unconsciously set themselves up to be cheated, and those who take advantage
of such people are often deeply involved in games too.
67. Why don't you - yes but. Asking for advice, but not
really being prepared to take any of it.
68. You better do what I say , or else.
69. Jealously and envy game - running down what others have in
order to cheat them out of it.
There are so many bizarre things that happen in this world. When
you hear of them you often can only shake your head in disbelief. Why ? Why do
such weird things happen ? There is very often no rational reason behind it. It
is just a game. And many times the payoff is death. Most games are not fun. Let me
just give you some examples:
The alcoholic, drug addict or gambling addict, who is slowly
destroying themselves. Why ? It is a game. It is irrational. It
is also so very sad.
The woman who goes from one abusive bum and creep to
The small time criminal who commits one crime after another,
and who is a regular in the courts and jail.
A nation that goes massively into debt, and does nothing to
resolve the situation. Then the people and media talk endlessly about
what the country could do, if it were not for all the debts. The
The young woman who marries a beast in the hopes of changing
him. She loves and kisses him, but he doesn't change into a Prince. This
only happens in the fairy tales. Magic in the real world is in short supply.
An employee is having serious problems on the job. He goes
home, comes back with a gun and blows his enemies away. Then he kills
himself. This sort of thing also sometimes happens between spouses and
lovers. It is almost always the man who cracks and ends up killing the woman
and maybe the whole family. Then he blows his brains out.
Political leaders getting their country into senseless wars
that they have no intentions of winning or resolving. Their enemies may be
playing the same game. The war rages on year after year. Multiple thousands
are killed and crippled. The country lies in ruins, with bombed out
buildings, bridges and other ruined infrastructure. The land is littered
with land mines. Other countries, who are not part of the fighting may go
along with this hellish game by supplying arms and munitions to one or the
other participants. Recent examples: War between Iraq and Iran (which
lasted eight years and resolved nothing). Civil War in lands like Angola,
the former Zaire, Sudan, Afghanistan, Colombia, Sri Lanka, Burundi, Algeria,
Yugoslavia, Kashmir, Bosnia, and on and on it goes. And then they get
together at the UN and spout off about how much they desire peace. Yet the
trade in arms and munitions continues unabated. Bullets before bread.
All the world's a stage
And all the men and women merely players.
They have their exits and their entrances;
Each man in his time plays many parts.
Major games being played collectively in
1. Debtor - Probably the most widely played
collective, societal game played in Canada.
Subconsciously the majority of Canadians never intend to
eliminate the national debt, which federally is around 527 billion in 2010, and the
provincial and territorial collective debt is around 270 billion, and this
doesn't include unfunded government liabilities. Why ? Because then they couldn't complain about the debts
and the high taxes. Additionally recent statistics indicate consumer debt
in Canada in 2010 was more than $1,400,000,000,000 (one trillion four hundred
billion dollars) and growing
! In 1984 Canadians owed only about $187 billion in personal debt.
2. Ain't it Awful - Collectively many, many Canadians are
continually grumbling about how their country is so poorly managed, yet
Canadians in general continue to elect incompetent leaders.
This gives them the opportunity to play the " Ain't it
Awful " game.
3. The Rescue Game
Collectively so many Canadians want to help this world out so
very, very much, but the help is basically ineffective and ineffectual. Like
the phony concern shown to oppressed peoples in places like Africa. Nice words
will not stop oppression and genocide. They want to free the Afghani
people, but freedoms in their own country of Canada continue to be eroded.
4. I don't want anything to do with politics. Many sneer at
politicians, and if one wants to talk about political matters with them - they
look down on you self-righteously and tell you " they don't want
anything to do with politics. " Yet these same people are very often deeply
involved in all kinds of politics, like office politics, community politics,
family politics, gender politics, or sexual politics. How can one honesty say
they don't want anything to do with politics, when they practice politics
in so many areas of their lives ?
5. If it weren't for you.
6. Game where the government of the day says they are out to help
the common man, but really are there to help an elite. Statistics show that
the gap between rich and poor in Canadian society continues to grow. Yet
governments of every stripe keep giving us this phony story that they are
concerned for the welfare of the ordinary citizen.
7. Offering to help poorer lands, but they just
want to cheat them (They seem to want to help, but the unconscious aim
is to exploit and cheat. The poor nations are part of the game, when they
unconsciously set themselves up to be taken advantage of).
8. Trying to make a silk purse out of a sow's ear.
Examples are Corrections Canada, and the aid given to corrupt
regimes throughout the world.
Corrections Canada - The idea is that they want
to change, or rehabilitate the criminal, while they are imprisoned for
whatever crime they have done. The idea is not primarily to punish the
crook and therefore bring justice to the victim, and friends and relatives
of the victim. Instead the government idea it is to attempt to reform the
criminal and make them into a contributing member of society. Thus the
name Corrections Canada. Naturally there are some who do change (whether
this is due to the efforts of Corrections Canada, or just something that
comes from within the individual is debatable), but many do not change -
many just play along with the game. Therefore much police time and
resources in Canada are spent in catching and re-catching repeat
9. I'm so good and pure (but many are really far from it).
10. Why am I always cheated ? This seems to quite
strong in Canadian relations with the USA. The recent soft wood lumber dispute
is a good example. Canada had an excellent case that the USA was treating
them unfairly in the lumber trade between the two countries, and the World
Trade Organization had repeatedly ruled in favour of Canada. However, the
Canadian government under Harper did not stick to their guns, but they caved in to the
USA pressure, and worked out a compromise deal with the USA, which ended
up costing the industry here in Canada billions of dollars.
11. Blaming the government for almost everything.
12. Poor me and Kick me (unconsciously setting themselves
up for failure).
13. Busman's holiday (a good game generally).
14. Happy to help (the person is doing penance for something,
but generally speaking people won't complain much , if someone wants to help
The Origin of Psychological Games
The Bible teaches that there once existed a great Cherub called
Lucifer, who was at one time obedient to God. However, this great spirit
being rebelled against God. One third of the angels under his command followed
him in this destructive rebellion (Revelation 12:3-4). Thus Lucifer was
transformed into none other than Satan the Devil and 1/3 of the once Holy Angels
became Fallen Angels.
Isaiah 14:12-15 " How art thou fallen from
heaven, O Lucifer, son of the morning ! How art thou cut down to the ground,
which did weaken the nations ! For thou hast said in thine heart, I will exalt
my throne above the stars (angels) of God: I will sit also upon the mount of
the congregation, in the sides of the north: I will ascend above the heights of
the clouds; I will be like the most High. Yet thou shalt be brought down to
hell, to the sides of the pit. "
Ezekiel 28:12 " ...... Thou sealest up the
sum, full of wisdom and perfect in beauty. "
Ezekiel 28:14-15 " Thou art the anointed
cherub that covereth and I have set thee so: thou wast upon the holy mountain of
God; thou hast walked up and down in the midst of the stones of fire. Thou wast
perfect in thy ways from the day that thou wast created, till iniquity was found
Ezekiel 28:17 " Thine heart was lifted up
because of thy beauty, thou hast corrupted thy wisdom by reason of thy
brightness: I will cast thee to the ground, I will lay thee before kings, that
they may behold thee. "
Luke 10:18 " And He said unto them, I beheld
Satan as lighting fall from heaven."
The Bible doesn't say how long these spirit beings were obedient
to God before they rebelled - it could have been millions of years. It doesn't
say how long they have been in rebellion - this could also be in the multiple
millions of years.
These beings have become corrupt, because they no longer follow
God and His ways. The relationships they have with one another has become
corrupt. Thus Satan and the fallen angels are the originators of games. Satan
and the fallen angels are completely corrupt now, and are mentally unstable and
mentally deranged. It has come to the point now that they would want to die, but
they can't, since they are spirits (Luke 8:26-33) (Matthew 8:28-34) (James 2:19)
(Revelation 12:12) (Revelation 20:10).
Lucifer's throne was here on earth. God had sent him and 1/3 of
the holy angels to this earth, but Lucifer became proud and rebelled against
God. The 1/3 of the holy angels under his command followed Lucifer and also
rebelled against God. They stormed heaven to fight against the other angels -
the ones who remained loyal to God. Lucifer wanted to be the ruler over all the
angels. He wanted to be God. He was not satisfied with his position.
Lucifer rebelled and in so doing transformed and created himself
into the devil. God did not create the devil. Lucifer made himself into
the adversary of God into the devil, and he is the father of lies and all
wickedness (John 8:44) (1John 3:8). God changed Lucifer's name to Satan, which
means Adversary. Satan and the fallen angels were now God's enemies, and they
are the enemies of those angels who remain loyal to God. Michael and
Gabriel are two powerful angels who are firmly on God's side.
God had given Lucifer his throne and jurisdiction over the
earth. When he rebelled and became God's Adversary, he still retained his throne and God
given jurisdiction over the earth. God did not take Satan's throne away from him
when he was cast down to the earth (Matthew 12:24-29) (Luke 11:14-22)
(Revelation 9:11). Satan is the unseen spirit ruler of this corrupt, rebellious
world (Ephesians 2:2-7) ( Ephesians 6:11-12).
Destruction of Life on Earth and Renewal
There was war in heaven. Lucifer wanted to be over all the
angels. He wanted to rule in heaven. In the ensuing battle parts of the
universe, and life on earth was destroyed (Isaiah 14:12-15) (Genesis 1:1-2). The
record in Genesis describes a renewing of life on earth. The original creation
is very, very briefly explained in Genesis 1:1 (chapter one, verse one).
The war among the angelic beings mentioned in Revelation 12:7-9
is not the same war where Lucifer stormed to heaven, and in that struggle life
on earth was destroyed. This war happens in the last days and may have
happened already, but it could still be in the near future. Michael and his
angels under him fight against the dragon and his angels, and the dragon loses
the war and is forever banished from heaven (Revelation 12:7-13). Right after
that we see a stepped up persecution of God's true Church.
So after this original angelic rebellion God must have then realized that
there was no 100 % guarantee that the remaining 2/3 of the holy angels
would remain loyal and obedient to Him.
So what appears to have happened is that God, after much thought
and planning, decided to create new beings , who would be greater than the angels
in His Kingdom (Hebrews 2:5-10). Beings made in God's image, but created out of
the dust of the earth. These beings were made so that they have the potential to
be born in the spiritual image of God in His Family and live forever. However,
if they refuse to take advantage of that opportunity, or refuse to live up to
that potential, then they can be destroyed forever (Genesis 1:26-28) (1
So God creates man in His own image out of the dust of the
ground, and man became a living soul (Genesis 2:7). But man is only physical. He
needs to be created in the spiritual image of God. He is not complete the way he
We Have God Given Free Moral Agency
God gave Adam and Eve a choice - they could leave it up to God
to decide the rules and decide what was right or wrong, or they could rebel and
decide for themselves what they thought was right or wrong. But God warned them
very clearly that if they rebelled against His standards then the result would
be death (Genesis 2:16-17) (Genesis 3:2-3).
Adam and Eve were given free moral agency. God allowed
Satan to tempt and test Adam and Eve. Eve gave in to the temptation and decided
she wanted to follow her own ways and standards of right and wrong. Adam
followed her in this rebellion (Genesis 3:1-21) (1 Timothy 2:13-14).
They followed Satan rather than God. Mankind therefore became
part of Satan's Kingdom, subject to death, and with a nature very similar to
Satan's (Ephesians 2:1-13) (Colossians 1:13,21) (Hebrews 2:13-18)
(Colossians 3:1-10) (Galatians 5: 19-26). So death came upon the
human family (Romans 5:12-21). They lost their opportunity to receive eternal
life. God blocked access for them to the Holy Spirit, which the tree of life was
Adam and Eve could have remained faithful to God , but they
failed the test.
It seems likely that God had anticipated this possibility.
Therefore God instituted His plan for the redemption of mankind, which of course
is through Jesus Christ, and His sacrifice for mankind.
Origin of Psychological Games
Satan and the fallen angels are the originators of these
psychological games. Most people also play similar games, when they follow their
This all sounds rather unpleasant and depressing, but God
has a purpose for all these things. God wants people to experience Satan's ways
in the hope they will be repulsed and repelled by them, and not want to follow
those ways. God wants mankind to experience the fruits of sin, in the hope they
will see how terrible and destructive sin is. So we have been forced into these
So people play games. But God has instituted a plan
where all human beings will be given an opportunity for salvation (unless of
course all true Christians have fallen away from God and there is no elect left
during the Great Tribulation - Matthew 24:21-22). Then Christ will allow
all human life to be destroyed in the nuclear war. So if this happens all
mankind won't be given an opportunity for salvation.
Hopefully they will all be given the opportunity to receive the
Holy Spirit, which is the new nature (Galatians 6:14-15) (Colossians
3:1-17 note verse 10). They can then learn to follow that new nature,
instead of following the old sinful nature. It is a lifetime work, but if people
plug away at it they can learn to put away harmful games. They can learn how
to avoid playing destructive games. It is a learning process. In the process
of overcoming our sins and evil natures we grow in grace and character. Thus God
uses something bad to create something good and enduring within us, like
righteous character. So in effect God is using the devil for God's own purposes.
God is so wise. He can turn defeats into victories.
The old sinful nature likes to play games. It is
motivated by lust, greed, selfishness, vanity, jealousy and so on. It is
basically evil (Galatians 5:19-21) (Jeremiah 17:9). But through Jesus Christ we
can be changed and given a new nature - the Holy Spirit.
Christ Has Won The Victory Over Sin and Death and the Devil
Through Christ and His sacrifice on the cross, His death and
resurrection, God has won the victory over sin and death (Hebrews the 9th
Chapter). Yet death remains Christ's enemy and mankind's, and will be the last
enemy to be completely defeated (1 Corinthians 15:24-28 note verse 26).
Christ has qualified to rule this earth. Christ has already
judged and condemned Satan, and Satan will be removed from his position as the
god of this evil world when Jesus returns to earth to set up His Kingdom (John
12:31, 14:30, 16:11). Satan's Kingdom on this earth will soon come to an end.
When Jesus returns He will take the devil and the fallen angels, and lock them
in the bottomless pit (Revelation 20:1-3).
It may sometimes seems like Satan and the fallen angels are more
powerful than God, but this is certainly not the case. Christ has already won
the victory over the devil and his fallen angel followers. It is just that
God's Kingdom does not now rule on earth.
The entire universe is loyal to God and is ruled by God, except
for the earth, but God is allowing this rebellion on earth to happen for His own
purposes - God is still in control. Since us human beings are of the earth and forced to live here,
it often seems Satan is stronger than God, but this is totally untrue. God
the Father and God the Son are infinitely greater than the devil and the fallen
angels. These evil beings can only go as far as God allows them to (Job
1:1-22 and Job 2:1-10).
The future of Satan and the fallen angels is to be tormented
forever and ever in hell (Revelation 20:10) They realize this and are horrified
by the prospect.
Human beings have the potential to be born into God's Kingdom
and live forever as God's children (Revelation 21:5-7).
It is God's hope that all human beings would live up to
that potential and be in God's kingdom, but people have free moral agency (2
Peter 3:9). If they want to be there badly enough then God and Christ will give
them all the encouragement and help they need. It all comes down to
whether they love God enough to want to live forever with Him in His Kingdom
Then hopefully the games will come to an end.
Guarantee of Rights and Freedoms and Fundamental Freedoms
(from the Canadian Constitution) " The Canadian Charter of Rights and Freedoms guarantees the rights
and freedoms set out in it subject only to such reasonable limits prescribed by
law as can be demonstrably justified in a free and democratic society. Everyone has the following fundamental freedoms:
(a) freedom of
conscience and religion; (b) freedom of thought, belief, opinion and
expression, including freedom of the press and other media of communication; (c)
freedom of peaceful assembly; and (d) freedom of association. "
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on spiritual matters. If you can find scriptural errors in my teachings -
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will gladly accept the constructive criticism and make the changes needed. So
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